Re: I’m ready to give up
I’m not an official voice by any means but IMHO bbPress at this time is more of a do-it-yourself type project that is definitely non-commercial in nature. It’s also in a pre-release state which means in general it’s not ready for “primetime” if you can’t deal with working out quirks.
If you need something commercial, especially in a hurry and have little technical experience, you need a commercial solution like vbulletin. Just be cautioned however you’ll need a more powerful server to host it’s bulk and since it’s commercial, everything for it will be cost – support, addons, etc. There’s always a trade off.