Re: deep integration = blank screen
I just tried including wp-load.php from another WordPress site on the same server, like this, and it worked just fine:
require_once('../../dev/wp-load.php');
Maybe our PHP or server configurations are different. But this worked fine and did not error out. I also tried just including a test.php file that I created in the same directory (the file is empty) and that works fine too. PHP doesn’t care what’s in that file (or if there is even anything in there at all), so long as there is no syntax error.