specifically to bring over the users avatars from wordpress…
For anybody else out there that is having this problem, this worked for me:
http://www.wpwebhost.com/make-bbpress-theme-match-with-wordpress-by-deep-integration/
still needs some tweaking, but overall… total match!!!! yay!
it strikes again…
put require_once(dirname(__FILE__) . ‘/home/xxxx/public_html/blog/wp-load.php’); into bb-config to get my functions to load and it gave me this error:
Warning: require_once(/home/xxxx/public_html/forum/home/xxxx/public_html/blog/wp-load.php) [function.require-once]: failed to open stream: No such file or directory in /home/xxxx/public_html/forum/bb-config.php on line 70
Fatal error: require_once() [function.require]: Failed opening required ‘/home/xxxx/public_html/forum/home/xxxx/public_html/blog/wp-load.php’ (include_path=’.:/usr/lib/php:/usr/local/lib/php’) in /home/xxxx/public_html/forum/bb-config.php on line 70
also tried with:
require_once(dirname(__FILE__) . ‘/../../blog/wp-load.php’);
and it did the same thing, just with the dots after forum/
any ideas?????
I tried that and it would stack it on the end anyway… so i would get for example
home/user/directory/forum/home/user/directory/blog/file.php
out of desperation i tried the absolute path 
just tried something else… I took the important parts out of the header and footer files and put them into the bbpress template files. it is loading now… sort of.
now onto the game of figuring out how to get some wordpress functions to work. I have the sliding door theme in wordpress, so ugghhh……..
thanks for your help!
tried doing an absolute path and got this error:
Warning: require_once() [function.require-once]: URL file-access is disabled in the server configuration in /home/xxxx/public_html/forum/bb-config.php on line 70
Warning: require_once(http://www.xxxx.com/home/xxxx/public_html/blog/header.php) [function.require-once]: failed to open stream: no suitable wrapper could be found in /home/xxxx/public_html/forum/bb-config.php on line 70
Fatal error: require_once() [function.require]: Failed opening required ‘http://www.xxxx.com/home/xxxx/public_html/blog/header.php’ (include_path=’.:/usr/lib/php:/usr/local/lib/php’) in /home/xxxx/public_html/forum/bb-config.php on line 70
